WTF? That was my reaction after reading a snarky mention of a fellow blogger during my recent reading rounds. It pissed me right the hell off.
Since the comment is still bothering me, I decided to vent about it here because it’s my blog and that’s what I want to do. You have the right to make a comment about what I say. You can tell me to get fucked, you can sympathize with me – you have the right to say whatever the hell it is you want because my comments are open and I’m asking for your feedback – right, wrong, indifferent. Is this a great thing or what? But to have a snide comment made about you when you're just minding your own business (blog) isn't right.
When we write a public blog, we are putting ourselves out there for kisses and/or kicks. Some of us are extremely popular (not Heather Armstrong
popular) but we get lots of comments, have scads of “followers”, are listed on many Blog Rolls. Others are here plugging away hoping to entertain others and themselves. It’s all good. I read many different types of blogs and it is ALL good. For the most part.
When I saw the remark, that, in my opinion, was totally uncalled for, it gave me pause – maybe it isn’t all good. That makes me angry and sad. It also boiled down to the fact that after much thought the only reason the statement was made was because of jealousy. That made me madder and sadder. I thought we were all in this together. I thought we were friends. I guess I was naïve enough to think that since every blog I read is written by adults, well over 21, that all the Jr. High drama was long past. Pathetically, it isn’t.
My name should have been changed to Pollyanna because I thought it was normal to help each other – emotionally, technically, spiritually and even financially. We gave aid however we were able. We are/were a community. While Blogland is a HUGE community, it’s the little circles of communities that run within the big machine that makes blogging fun, exciting and even amazingly educational. What is the point of snarkyness and jealousy when we are all doing our best? To me, there is no point. We know each other but yet we don’t really know each other, if you understand what I mean. But … we are all blogging, we are all writing about our lives, feelings, emotions, fantasies, etc. for ourselves and each other. I embrace that sense of community.I thought others did the same.
The bloggers I’m writing about do what I’m mentioned – they help, they entertain, they write well, they aren’t Hitler supporters, they don’t write about horrible, sick things like "crushing". They are, from their writings, good people who care a lot about their family, readers, the blog community and the world in general. Why the fuck make random, unprovoked, nasty, out of the blue comments about one another?
When you write publically and leave your comments open you are inviting any and all types of comments. When you do nothing but blog and do the right thing for yourself and your readers, you don’t deserve to smacked upside the head because someone gets their tits in a twist because you have more readers and/or followers.
Rant over. Thank you.